You Are NOT Invited!
By Jewels Devine
Hello my darlings! As summer truly gets underway, I find that my mailbox is overflowing with wedding invitations. After talking with some of today’s brides, I am not sure how Big Daddy and I managed to get married without the aide of smartphones, Pinterest, and the help of online forums. I have come to realize that the trends are a lot different now, from how we invited guests to wedding fashions and all things in between.
I was raised to believe that the wedding day was all about celebrating the happy couple as they begin their journey as husband and wife. It appears that is no longer the case. We now have social media; which is a key part in weddings and a new way to entertain our guest while they celebrate the bride and groom’s union. Really?!
After all these years, Big Daddy and I are still enjoying our honeymoon phase. Technically I don’t have to keep up with wedding trends. (But you know me my darlings; I have a burning desire to be ‘in the know’ and current on all things trendy and important.) However, I couldn’t help but notice there are some new ones that are a bit on the strange side – at least for this Montana woman.
I was helping my dear friend’s daughter fill out her invitations and her ‘your are not invited’ cards. Yes, you have read correctly! It appears that it is considered the socially polite thing to do to send out cards stating that the person is not invited to the wedding. Yikes!
I am not sure who came up with this brainchild of an idea. I am sure it must have materialized after many drinks trying to plan the perfect wedding. You know when too much wine and too little sleep makes everything a good idea.
I think it was probably designed for the people who learn that someone they know is getting married and find out they are not getting invited. Imagine the person waits and waits for their invitation in the mail, as the date of nuptials draw closer, they realize their chance of getting that invitation is slim-to-none. In hopes of avoiding this awkward moment, the “You’re Not Invited” card was invented.
I recently read an article that said it was designed for the person who could possibly expect to be invited to a couple’s wedding and, for whatever reason, they are not invited. They will get sent this card. The article assured it’s readers that it is not supposed to be mean-spirited. “Nine out of ten times, it’s because of lack of space – and the couple feels super guilty. So, if you open up your mail to find a fancy envelope hoping it’s finally that wedding invitation you were hoping to get – don’t get your hopes up.”
It’s been a long time since I got married and I know that things have changed. However, good manners and common sense should always survive the passing of time. Hopefully this silly trend will not!